“Life is ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent how you respond to it.” ~Lou Holtz –
In life, we will experience some or all of the following events, this is the ten percent of what happens.
Loss of a loved one
Divorce
Family
Bullying
Money
Loss of a job
Getting married
Buying a house
Illness
Our emotional reaction to these events falls into the ninety percent we have some control over.
Grief
Stress
Depression
Anger
Guilt
Low self-esteem
For some people the emotional response can be devastating, however, for people who generally have a positive approach to life’s problems, the emotional reaction can be short-lived.
Some of my favourite positive quotes for dealing with life’s problems are,
“You must be prepared to live and die by the decisions you make every day.”
“Every decision you made was the right decision for you.”
“Expect people to be themselves and you will never be disappointed.”
“Nobody is perfect.”
“C’est la vie.”
“Sometimes it’s them but more often it’s how you react to their actions.”
“Nothing and nobody lasts forever.”
“Embrace change.”
“Let it go.”
“Sometimes problems disappear with your old attitudes”
“There’s a little bit of truth in everything you see.”
“What doesn’t kill you will make you stronger.”
“The light at the end of the tunnel is coming closer every day.”
“Everybody is fighting a battle you do not understand.”
“What’s meant for you will not pass you by.”
“Don’t take life too seriously. You’ll never get out of it alive.” ~Elbert Hubbard
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. If you think you deserve the very best this world has to offer, you will attract the best people and the best things into your life.
The opposite is also true;
If your favourite thoughts are; “I’ll never get it.” or “I’m not good enough.” These are self-fulfilling prophecies. The more you believe in these statements, the more miserable your life will be. The following quote is true.
“You will receive nothing more than you think you deserve.”
If you’ve spent your life surrounded by people who are mean to you. You don’t think you deserve any better, so you put up with them. It doesn’t matter if one person leaves your group. They will be replaced by somebody else who treats you just as badly.
However, if you improve the relationship you have with yourself, those people will leave, and you will attract into your life people who will treat you better, yourself included.
How do you improve the relationship you have with yourself?
The first step is realising you need to improve the opinion you have of yourself.
The second step is listing all the things you like and dislike about yourself.
The third step is to determine which things you can change and which things you can’t.
Your height, the size of your feet, or the colour of your eyes fall into the category of things you can’t change. They are only a few examples, but you get the idea.
Things you can change are your attitude, your diet, your fitness, and your opinions.
The fourth step is to accept the things you can’t change, are perfect just the way they are.
The fifth step is to outline how you’re going to change the things you can change.
Read material on how to live a positive life.
Stop paying attention to negative news stories.
Stop listening to negative people.
Stop judging yourself and everybody else.
Examine your opinions to see if they’re still relevant.
Believe everybody you know has your best interests at heart.
Listen to meditation material on, “living in the now.”
Release your emotional attachments to people and events from your past.
Accept your history is not an indication of your future.
Start a fitness regime, even if it’s a ten minute walk every day to begin with. Repeat this slogan, “I’m getting stronger, fitter, faster every day when you’re walking.
Eat in moderation and always take your time because it takes up to 20 minutes for your stomach to tell your brain it’s full.
Step six is to pick a time every day to sit for 15 minutes are repeat the following positive affirmations.
Every day is a great day.
I’m finding more reasons to be happy every day.
I love and approve of myself.
I forgive everybody who has ever disappointed me.
I am getting more perfect every day.
I attract wonderful people into my life.
I always look for the best in other people.
I’m delighted to be alive.
I’m getting healthier every day.
I deserve the very best things this world has to offer.
Step 7 stay strong because it only takes minutes to read this post but it will take months to feel the changes you want to see.
I’ll leave you with the following quotes that are relevant to this 📫.
“Your world revolves around your thoughts.”
“Life is 10% of what happens and 90% of how you react.”
“What you see in other people exists within you.”
“What you send out into the world will be returned to you with interest.”
“Your purpose in life is to become the best possible version of you.”
“What’s meant for you will not pass you by.”
“If you don’t want to change your life, nobody can help you; if you want to change your life, nobody can stop you because when you change your attitude, you change your life.”
“The relationship you have with yourself is the basis for every relationship you will have with other people. When you love being with yourself, other people will love being with you, too.”
Common sense often over simplifies incredibly complicated situations but when you look back at how you solved the problems you were experiencing, you often resorted to common sense ideas. The following are just a few common sense ideas I’ve gathered over the years.
“Don’t judge a book by its cover.”
“It can take years to realise the only place short cuts work is on a keyboard.”
“The most important lesson to learn from any mistake is to not make that mistake again.”
“People with common sense are hard to find.”
“If you don’t look where you’re going, you’ll end up going where you’re looking.” ~Crash
“Give somebody enough rope and they will surely hang themselves.”
“You can force a lot of things but you can’t force life.”
“Experience can lead to common sense but not everybody learns from experience.”
“Forgive your past; pay attention to the present because it’s a gift denied to many.”
“A door mat will clean everybody’s shoes but even that wears out eventually; that’s the equivalent of trying to please everybody all the time, you become a door mat.”
“Don’t start anything unless you intend to finish it.”
“Actions speak louder than words.”
“Overcome your insecurities; If you don’t know how, ask somebody else.”
“A Positive attitude attracts positive results.”
“Stop trying to impress people who don’t know you exist.”
“When you cross a bridge, decide whether is needs to be burned or not, and be prepared to die with that decision.” ~ No regrets.
“You will face enough real problems in your life, don’t invent problems by over thinking.”
“Understanding what’s within your power to control is vital for your sanity.” ~“Let it go.”
“Respect yourself.”
“Successful people do not get to be successful by wishing for success, they get there by working for it.” ~ “I became an overnight success after 25 years.”
“I don’t know but I will find out.” Is a good answer.
“The only thing you can change in an instant is your attitude, everything else takes time.”
“I know what you’re thinking,” is guesswork at best, and foolishness at worst.
“People will spread lies far quicker than they will share the truth.” ~C’est la vie.
“If plan A doesn’t work, don’t worry there is another 25 letters in the English alphabet.”
“It’s better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.” ~Mark Twain
“Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water.”
“Take a deep breath and release it slowly.”
“There is 8760 hours in a year, don’t allow what happens is 24 hours spoil the other 8736.”
“Failure is not the end, it’s merely the beginning of a new journey.”
Have a life motto. “I have complete control over my thoughts, emotions, actions and words.”
“What you believe is often more real than the truth.”
“You cannot live a positive life with a negative attitude.”
“The most important person you need to know is yourself.”
“Everything will work out for you in the end, otherwise it’s not the end it’s merely the end of another chapter in your autobiography.”
Please leave your own favorites in the comments section below.
“Intelligence is sexy and is the only way to attract and keep people who will respect you long after the body gets old.”
Any relationship that’s based on the attractiveness of the body is equivalent to, “wall paper,” when you put it up first it looks new and inviting, after three months you know it’s still relatively new but it doesn’t grab your attention like it used to. After a year you fail to notice the wall paper, all you notice is the stains that are starting to appear due to age. The following year you stop seeing the stains until somebody draws your attention to them. Over time the wall paper becomes irrelevant, you know there’s wall paper on the wall but that’s about all you know. Then one day you decide to change the wall paper because it seems like the right thing to do.
Relationships which are based on intellectual compatibility is equivalent to falling in love with your favourite film, it never grows old no matter how many times you watch it; as you grow older you learn to appreciate the parts of the film you missed the first thirty times you seen it. The film seems to change as you mature, and that is the way all relationships should develop.
Wall paper of your favourite film? It’s a choice people make every day but it should be remembered.
“Relationships built on intellectual compatibility always outlive relationships built on lust.”
