In a world where a lot of people are saying, “don’t judge what you don’t understand,” or “don’t judge me;” it’s sending out the message of “don’t judge,” they’re right in terms of judging them, however, it would be more accurate for them to say, “don’t share your judgement of me with me,” because in order to live the life you want, you need to have the ability to accurately judge everything in your life. You have to be able to determine what you need in your life and more importantly what you don’t need.
What you need in your life is based on your core values, when the people and things in your life are a good match to those values, you’re happy because your mind is not battling against your own natural instincts. The opposite is also true, if you have people or things in your life that are inconsistent with your core values, you’re constantly fighting a battle with yourself to let those people or things go, or put up with them. You’re not happy.
To put it simply, your core values guide your behaviour.
An example of some core values are,
- Honesty.
- Equality.
- Independence.
- Integrity.
- Open-mindedness.
- Spirituality.
- Trustworthy.
- Health.
- Loyalty.
- Work-life balance.
- Attitude towards money.
- Fairness.
- Family.
- Respect for other people’s reputation and morale.
- Accountability.
Your core values will be listed in order of importance. For example, if you were to list Colleen Rooney’s core values in order of importance, I’m fairly sure family & loyalty are high on her list of core values, based on (hearsay & conjecture).
Understanding your own core values will help you to determine what you want in your life, what you’re prepared to put up with and what you need to let go of for your own sanity.
I’ll leave you with one final thought,
Judging everybody and everything is the only way to live your life, however, you can’t begin to judge anybody else until you have finished accurately judging yourself, when you’ve completed that task you may not be interested in judging anybody else.
