Every barrier you create is designed to keep you safe. The stronger the barrier, the safer you will be. However, every so often, you have to ask the question, “Can you be too safe?” Have you reached a point where nobody can get close to you?
People create barriers for protection against emotional pain. It’s the, “they hurt me, they won’t hurt me again,” mentality. However, the thing people don’t realise is, the barriers they create cannot protect them against what has already happened in their past but those barriers can stop them from living the life they were meant to live.
How can a barrier prevent the future? Every barrier has its own energy and that energy is projected outwards at all times, some people will see that barrier as a challenge, however, most people will see it as a sign you want to be left alone and that’s just what they’ll do.
Who will create the strongest barriers? Empathetic people who are more aware of how other people’s actions affect them are the people who create the strongest barriers, they’re the sensitive type, although only the people who know them best will ever see that side to their personality.
Are all barriers bad? The answer is no, you need to have certain barriers in place so you don’t become somebody’s doormat. Self-respect is something everybody needs to have. Remember, how you treat yourself sets the standards everybody else will follow.
If you’re happy with the life you’re living, your barriers are set at the right energy levels. However, if you want to attract different people into your life? You will need to lower your barriers.
How do you lower your barriers? This is a journey that’s unique to everybody. The first step is understanding that you have barriers. The second step is identifying when the barriers were created. The third step is the realization that those barriers are not helping you and need to be lowered. The fourth step is opening up and letting other people into your life. The fifth step is realising this will take as long as it takes.
I’ll leave with a couple of quotes from people who understood the importance of lowering barriers:
“There are no constraints on the human mind, no walls around the human spirit, no barriers to our progress except those we ourselves erect.” ~ Ronald Reagan
“Peace is a daily, a weekly, a monthly process, gradually changing opinions, slowly eroding old barriers, quietly building new structures.” ~John F. Kennedy
