Month: Jun 2022

You are responsible for your behaviour, I’m responsible for how I react to your behaviour. If we’re both happy with our interaction, it’s a win-win for everybody. However, if one of the people involved is not happy with the other person’s behaviour, that’s when something has to change. The personalities and the relationship between the people involved will determine what those changes will be, but in every case, they’ll fall into two categories, which are direct and indirect.

Direct changes

Direct changes are the quickest and easiest way to resolve any difference of opinion about a person’s behaviour. The person with the grievance outlines how the other person’s behaviour offended them and then gives the other person a chance to respond. The response will determine the future relationship between the two people.

Indirect changes

Indirect changes, on the other hand, can last an eternity. Neither person confronts the other about the behaviour that offends them, so they just alter their own behaviour. “I can’t believe they did or said that” are common phrases in this scenario. However, they say it to other people instead of each other. Of course, one of the people involved may have no idea their behaviour offended the other person and is wondering why the other person has changed.

I don’t know for definite which category is most used but if I was a gambler I’d be putting my money on the indirect changes method, simply because people are complicated and the like to make everything complicated too. I’ll leave you with one final thought.

To be happy with your behaviour is enough because it’s impossible to please everybody.

P.S. To say this post is only the tip of the iceberg on this subject is an under statement.

The consequences of your actions is your responsibility.

If you don’t go to work for a week, you’re going to need a letter from a professional to explain your absence. If you don’t go to work for a month, you’ll need a few more letters.

If you don’t pay your mortgage or rent, you’re going to find somewhere else to live.

If you’re late on your car payments, you could end up walking to a lot more places.

If you stop talking to people, they may stop trying to connect with you.

If you don’t exercise occasionally, you’ll not be fit enough to enjoy life.

If you don’t eat enough of the right foods, you’ll get fat. If you don’t eat enough food, you’ll get really thin.

If you don’t do something that engages your mind outside of your work, you’re going to think all you do is work.

If you do nothing at all, you will get depressed.

If you worry about all the things you’re not doing, you will suffer from anxiety.

That’s enough negativity for one day. You really shouldn’t concentrate on what you’re not doing anyway. You should instead focus your attention on everything you accomplish during your week. You’ll be surprised by how much you actually do that you take for granted. I’ll leave you with one final thought.

Do what you can today, and worry about what you don’t do tomorrow because, surprisingly enough, your world will not end as a result of what you don’t do.