If you’re interested in how your mind makes decisions about what you should do please read on. However, when you’re finished reading, there’s a good possibility you won’t know anymore about how your mind works than you did before because your mind will always be simply complicated.
The mind has and always will have three interactive leaders regardless of the age of the person. They consist of baby brain, mammy brain, and daddy brain.
How they work together is quite simple. Baby brain says, “I want, I want, I want.” Mammy brain considers the request and will often say, “Yes, you deserve it.” Daddy brain will observe without getting involved and generally agree with Mammy brain. On the rare occasion when Daddy brain disagrees with Mammy brain, they will talk or not talk until a compromise is reached. Generally, they will need to learn more information about the situation from an external source for the correct compromise to be reached because neither Mammy brain nor Daddy brain knows everything.
That’s a very simplified version of how your mind works, the complicated part of the equation is you are only born with the baby brain; mammy brain and daddy brain have to learn their role as you grow up. In your early years, your own parents play the role of your mammy and daddy brain with the occasional influence from nannies, aunts, brothers, sisters, and maybe Peppa Pig too.
When you enter the school system, the number one people influencing your mammy brain and daddy brain increases dramatically. The greatest influence will be the many children who are on the same learning journey as you are.
As a teenager, you will become more aware of the world around you and the many different people who exist. At this point, you will start to influence your own mammy brain and daddy brain. In your late teenage years the conversations between mammy and daddy brain can become quite tense because, your baby brain knows what it wants, however, mammy and daddy brain don’t have enough information to reach a compromise. This is the time most people enter the trial and error phase of life.
The trial and error phase can last a few years or a lifetime, it is highly dependant upon each individual and how their baby brain, mammy brain and daddy brain learned the role they play in each decision. Of course, a balanced compromise to decision-making is always appreciated because nobody wants to see a grown adult throwing a tantrum.
Most people settle down in their late twenties, early thirties, which means that mammy brain and daddy brain have created habits to find a solution to most obstacles they face. It’s only when something new enters the fray that they debate about the best way to move forward.
In a perfect world with perfect harmony, your mind would be at peace with itself all the time, but the world we live on is far from perfect. At any point during your life if the baby brain, mammy brain and daddy brain fail to reach a compromise on a particular topic through whatever reason, this can lead to trouble down the road because that’s a never ending conversation that’s happening within your mind even if you’re not aware of it. Just remember, not reaching a compromise in one area of your life can affect every area of your life.
And that’s my simplified version of how your mind works, I hope you enjoyed it. I’ll leave you with an interesting quote.
“Life is simple. It’s people who are complicated.”- Confucius
P.S. It’s never too late to find a compromise to any problem.
