You deserve the very best this life has to offer. You deserve to be loved. You deserve to have a fulfilling career. You deserve to have an enjoyable social life. You deserve to have great health. You deserve to be happy with the life you’re living. That’s what you deserve.
Whether you get what you deserve or not will be determined by your self-esteem. Have you ever wondered why certain people with less ability than you achieve more than you? That’s their self-esteem in action. You see, self-esteem is the foundation for everything you build and accomplish in your life.
People with high self-esteem place great value on themselves. They don’t question whether they’re good enough for the life they’re living. They question whether the life they’re living is good enough for them. Remember, you don’t have to be good enough to attract the best things life has to offer. You just have to believe that you’re good enough.
People with low self-esteem are the complete opposite. They question whether they are good enough to receive any of the good things life has to offer. They are the people who will suffer from imposter syndrome their whole life unless they change their attitude towards themselves and their self-worth.
It’s worth pointing out that the majority of people will fall somewhere in between having a low or high self-esteem. It’s also worth pointing out that people’s self-esteem will climb or fall at different times during their life, depending on external factors that are beyond their control. People with naturally high self-esteem will bounce back more quickly from setbacks than people who exhibit low self-esteem.
So, what is the source of people’s self-esteem? As with all behavioural issues, it’s always going to be based on theory because humans are complicated. Self-esteem is developed from the moment we enter this life. Every child who enters this world has high self-esteem. As we travel through life and overcome the trials and tribulations of life, that self-esteem can fall. That self-esteem is in the greatest danger of falling between birth and puberty.
Anyone who escapes that period of their lives relatively unscathed will have a relatively high self-esteem. The people who experience a traumatic childhood are inclined to have low self-esteem.
The good news for people with low self-esteem is that it’s something that they can improve. It won’t be easy, and it will take time and effort, but it can be done. The first step is self-analysis. The second step is to unlearn the beliefs you have about yourself. The third step is to rebuild the beliefs you have about yourself. This is a do it yourself project. Nobody can do it for you because your self-esteem is your responsibility. I’ll leave you with one final thought.
When you believe that you’re not good enough without proof. You are your own worst enemy.
