“Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence.” ~ Vince Lombardi.
Month: Mar 2016
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He’s not wrong. Things don’t happen for a reason, things just happen, and then we try to make sense out of what happened.
This sentence is normally associated with something happening that, on the face of it appears negative because if you had just won the lottery the only thing you’d be thinking is, yeahhhhhhhhhh I’m rich, however, if you lose your job, or a relationship ends, or your health suffers or any other negative event happens to you, that’s when you start to wonder.
Why is always happening to me? The answer is, “It’s your fault, your actions or inaction has caused the event to happen.”
Now, that’s an answer very few of us are prepared to accept, so we continue to look outside of ourselves for answers. Some people blame their misfortune on anything and everybody, they’re blind to their own faults. The fail to see it was their choices and decisions which caused them to continuously face the same obstacle over and over again.
An example of this is, a man has been divorced nine times by nine different women, and he still thinks he’s perfect. He hasn’t learned anything only how the divorce system works.
The following quote applies to nearly every situation; “the day you change your attitude is the day you change your life.”
The change of attitude required to create a different future is different for everybody because as you know, everybody is unique; they’ve lived different lives, and had different experiences.
One example of a change of attitude is; there was a guy who considered himself to be clever, he thought managers were hired for his amusement, he didn’t realise they held his future in their hands so he continued to make fun of them because they weren’t as clever as he thought he was. It was too late when he realised the foolishness of his actions at that particular place of employment. His change of attitude towards managers did help in his next role. He understood the only way to get promoted was to ensure his manager was promoted first.
Our thoughts and actions determine our future, if you’re not happy with your present situation, you will be equally unhappy in your future positions unless you change your attitude first, because.
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” ~Albert Einstein.
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Life is a learning curve. We are born helpless, and without somebody else’s help, we would die without ever knowing what life is about. If we are lucky to be born with a mother who loves us, provides for us, and wants us to grow into the best possible version of ourselves, we can be, or to grow up being happy with who we are.
Regardless of the future our mothers want for us, it is up to us to make that future happen. The following quote comes to mind when dealing with children’s futures, “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.” It’s only when the child wants the same future as the mother will there be a unity of cause. If not, there will always be conflict.
In today’s world, there are so many potential futures for our children, it would be unrealistic to pick one example that would encompass all the learning required to make even one of those futures become a reality; so I will pick a simpler topic, one where the only goal is to pass on their genes to the next generation.
The king of the African plane, the Lion.The male lion is born to a loving mother; is loved, fed, and reared in a loving family called a pride until it is two years old, at that time its father or even its mother will chase the young male lion out of the family’s territory so that it will have no choice but to learn to survive or die in the attempt. This is the start of a huge learning curve for the young male lion. Over the next three to five years, the young lion will have to find and kill enough prey to live. He will have to stay out of the territories of mature males because he could easily be killed to prevent future competition. The lion will have to join a brotherhood because when they join together with other lions of a similar age who have the same goals, they have a better chance of taking over their own pride. Once a brotherhood has formed, they have hone their fighting skills by practising against each other so that when a real opportunity arrives they will be fit and strong enough to overcome adversaries and in the long-run be able to defend their own territories.
Only 1 in every 8 male lions born reach adulthood and is given the opportunity to take over a pride and pass on his genes to the next generation, this is a result of, survival of the fittest, and the fact that man has had a huge impact on the territories available to lions in the wild.
When they eventually take over a pride and territory of their own and start start to create offspring, they have to learn how to defend the position they have spent their whole lives learning to acquire. If they don’t, they will quickly find themselves replaced by younger and stronger competitors.The lion has to learn how to hunt, make friends, learn to fight as a team, grow strong, and learn to defend its pride in order to accomplish it’s reason for living.”Passing on his genes to the next generation.” Once upon a time, man had similar goals for living, but that was a long time ago in simpler times.
Today’s man and woman have to do a lot more learning to acquire their goals of a family, career, houses, cars, and travel. These are no particular order because order doesn’t exist in today’s world.
This learning experience often takes place through failure. When a goal is not achieved using what we know, we learn from that experience, change our approach, and try to achieve it again using a different technique. This is the same in our personal and professional lives. We keep on learning and changing until we reach our goals. If we’re lucky, we will not reach all our goals because we all need a reason to live. I’ll leave you with one final thought;
We learn so much from failures. Although, to be honest, I’ve never heard anybody say they enjoyed the experience.
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Mind readers do not exist. “Life is an echo. What you send out comes back. What you sow, you reap. What you give, you get. What you see in other people exists in you.” ~Zig Ziglar.
Life is but a reflection of your thoughts, when you’re feeling happy, you see happiness in everybody else; when you’re feeling sad, you see a tear in the eye of everybody you meet. The truth is that you can’t know what somebody else is feeling or thinking because people are unique. Stories that are sad to one person may not be sad to somebody who has had a different life experience.For example, if a relationship breaks up, a person who has been lucky enough to enjoy years of a happiness with their partner might think it’s sad, but if a person who is with an abusive partner hears the same story, they might think, “Luck smiles on some,” and be happy that they decided to break up, and give each other a fresh start.
Happy, positive people attract happy positive events into their life, just as sad people attract nobody. Good attentive listeners will attract people who like to hear the sound of their own voice. Empathic people will hear the woes of the world if they’re not careful. Kind people will attract people who will take advantage of their kindness for as long as it lasts, because eventually the kind person becomes a cynical person because of that experience.
What other people are thinking is a gift you will not receive in this lifetime, if scriptures are correct, it may be something you get to experience when you’re finished with the life you’ve been given. We are here for a reason but from what I have experience, we may be a long way away before we understand that reason, or if we don’t accomplish that goal, we may get another go on the wheel of life.
Balance is the key to a contented life; have enough happiness, sadness, anger, sympathy, joy, empathy and kindness in your life to make it a life you are happy to live.
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I’m with this gang. “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing it is stupid.” ~Albert Einstein.
I believe Albert Einstein is correct in his assumption that everybody is a genius, if you spend enough time with anybody, you will find at least one thing at which they excel. It may be art, woodwork, metalwork, math, science, cooking, writing, or any number of services that are required by people. Some people might not be good at working with their hands, but are exceptional at organising, strategising and leadership.
But what has this got to do with intelligence, absolutely NOTHING: Intelligence tests are just another way of measuring one person’s ability to complete a task that is irrelevant in the grand scheme of events, except to the ego of the person completing the test of course.
I think people like to be considered intelligent, I know I did when I was a bit younger, I used to take intelligence tests, and fill in those, “only if you’re a genius,” maths things on Facebook, but the older I got, I find those things are really a waste of time; if you spend enough time doing intelligence tests or any other test, you will know the answers to most questions; does that mean you’re any brighter than somebody who has never taken one? The answer to that question is one you will have to answer yourself.
I read recently that, “80% of people believe they are of above average intelligence, and the other 20% don’t care.” I know which group I belong to, do you?
