That’s right, you don’t need to forgive anyone except yourself, and if you try to forgive people (including yourself) who you don’t believe deserve your forgiveness, then you could be causing trouble for yourself down the road.
You see, forgiveness is often portrayed as a liberating act, but if it feels forced or insincere, it can lead to internal dichotomy rather than healing. True forgiveness typically requires a shift in perspective, where you come to understand why forgiveness is beneficial—not necessarily because the other person “deserves” it, but because it allows you to let go of resentment and regain peace.
In situations where you genuinely feel someone doesn’t deserve forgiveness, it might help to focus on accepting them for who they are without condoning their actions. This way, you can prioritize your well-being without compromising your sense of justice or self-respect.
One last word.
You’ve got to accept that we live on a planet of saints and sinners, and everyone in-between.
