Making mistakes is the most fundamental part of personal growth. That’s why you need to make mistakes. However, you shouldn’t make the same mistakes as the people that surround you. You should learn from their mistakes and concentrate on making your own.
Happy New Year.
I’m currently reading my autobiography, and I finally understand why I did the things I’ve done. I was a slow learner and didn’t know any better. 😀
The one thing that allows me to smile about the mistakes I’ve made is that I’m in good company because nobody knows it all. And, I grew up at a time before everyone had a camera in their possession to document my mistakes, so they are mine and mine alone to remember, but I digress.
You see, life is a continuous journey of learning and self-awareness, and it’s natural to make decisions based on our limited understanding at the time. Reflecting on our past actions with compassion allows us to grow and overcome our demons, which in turn will allow us to move forward with greater clarity and purpose.
So, keep reflecting, keep learning, and most importantly, be kind to yourself on this journey.
I lived my whole life believing I wasn’t good enough until that fateful day when I looked into the eyes of a stranger and saw myself reflected back.
It was a rainy Tuesday afternoon, and I had just been passed over for yet another promotion. The sting of rejection felt familiar, almost comforting in its predictability. I ducked into a small café to escape the downpour, my head low, my shoulders heavy.
As I waited for my coffee, a woman sitting by the window caught my attention. She had a warm, almost magnetic presence. Her silver hair framed a face marked with lines that spoke of laughter and sorrow in equal measure. She glanced up and smiled at me—a smile so genuine it felt like a gift.
“Excuse me,” she said, her voice soft yet firm, “Do you mind sitting with me for a moment?”
Startled, I hesitated but nodded, carrying my coffee to her table. She gestured to the chair across from her, and as I sat, her piercing blue eyes seemed to look right through me.
“You remind me of someone I used to know,” she said. “Someone who spent her whole life believing she wasn’t good enough.”
I froze, unsure how to respond. Before I could speak, she reached into her bag and pulled out a small mirror. “Look at yourself,” she said, holding it up to me.
Reluctantly, I glanced at my reflection. I saw the same tired eyes, the same furrowed brow, the same face I’d avoided meeting in mirrors for years. But then she spoke.
“Now look deeper. You are more than what you see. The world told you you’re not enough, but the world lies. You were always more than enough. You just didn’t believe it.”
Her words struck something deep inside me, a part of me I had long buried. For the first time, I allowed myself to see beyond my perceived flaws. I saw resilience in those tired eyes, determination in that furrowed brow.
The stranger smiled again and placed the mirror in my hand. “Keep it,” she said, standing to leave. “And remember, the only person who needs to believe you’re enough is you.”
As she walked out into the rain, I realized something: I didn’t even know her name, but she had given me the greatest gift I’d ever received. From that day forward, I vowed to see myself through her eyes—worthy, capable, and more than enough.
P.S. If you don’t believe you’re good enough. It will be difficult for others to see your worth.
Inviting everything you need into your life in 2025 begins with clear intention, gratitude, and proactive action. Here’s how you can manifest abundance, peace, and fulfilment:
1. Clarify Your Desires
Write down what you want to invite: love, success, health, creativity, or peace. Be specific and authentic.
Visualise how these things will feel and change your life.
2. Create Space for Abundance
Declutter: Physically and emotionally, remove anything that doesn’t serve your future vision.
Prioritize Self-Care: Build habits that nurture your well-being and align with your goals.
3. Cultivate Gratitude
Practice daily gratitude for what you already have, as it attracts more positivity into your life.
4. Set Intentions and Take Action
Break your goals into actionable steps.
Set daily or weekly practices to focus on your desires, like journaling, meditating, or networking.
5. Open Yourself to Opportunities
Stay curious and willing to adapt as new paths and unexpected blessings come your way.
Surround yourself with uplifting people and experiences that align with your vision.
6. Anchor It Spiritually
Use affirmations like: “I am open to receiving everything I need in 2025 with ease and joy.”
Consider mindfulness practices or rituals that keep you aligned with your intentions.
By inviting abundance, health, love, and success into your life with intentionality, you set the tone for a fulfilling and transformational year.
If you can imagine it, then the universe will create it for you.
There are some people who don’t appear any happier regardless of how much they’ve acquired, and that’s normal for them because they live in an external world. Please allow me to elaborate.
You see, in our fast-paced world, it’s easy to equate happiness with the accumulation of possessions, achievements, or the approval of others. However, true contentment often emerges not from acquiring more but from needing less.
The Illusion of More
Society frequently promotes the idea that more is better—more wealth, more success, and more external validation. A good example of this is when you read the headline, “celebrity is seen wearing the same outfit at award ceremony,” Like they’re supposed to disgard an outfit after wearing it once (shocking). This mindset can lead to a perpetual cycle of desire and dissatisfaction, as each new acquisition or achievement only temporarily fills the void.
Embracing Minimalism
Minimalism isn’t solely about reducing physical belongings; it’s about simplifying our mental and emotional landscapes. By identifying and focusing on what truly matters, we can let go of superfluous desires that don’t contribute to our mental well-being.
Practical Steps to Needing Less
1. Self-Reflection: Regularly assess your desires and motivations. Ask yourself whether they align with your core values and contribute to your genuine happiness.
2. Practice Gratitude: Cultivate a habit of appreciating what you already have. This shifts focus from what’s lacking to what’s abundant in your life.
3. Mindful Consumption: Before making new purchases or commitments, consider their true necessity and the value they add to your life.
4. Set Boundaries: Learn to say no to activities, relationships, or obligations that don’t serve your well-being, allowing space for what truly matters.
The Freedom of Less
By consciously choosing to need less, we liberate ourselves from the endless pursuit of external validation and material possessions. This freedom allows us to invest time and energy into personal growth, relationships, and experiences that bring lasting fulfilment.
In essence, the journey towards needing less is a path to discovering that we are already enough and that true happiness resides within.
I’ll leave you with one final thought.
Stop paying for solutions to problems you only think you need.
